Huge thanks to you and Sam for these articles, Alison! It's not a hugely common thing in our friend group to have a two parent household where both (ideally) want to spend hours in the mountains training, so the transition to parenthood felt like pretty uncharted territory for us. Reflections like this (and Sam's) are so helpful!
Also something that's not here but might be helpful to others - I had a really hard time watching my husband progress at all the sports we used to enjoy together when I was pregnant. I was still doing (most) of them alongside him, but with a different level of risk tolerance. It stung, and was definitely something I had to work through. This stuff is hard!
Yes! I’m writing a more personal essay about that right now. It’s hard to have such massive changes in your body and ability to do what you normally can do while your partner isn’t affected in the same way at all. I found it hard not to feel like it was unfair, even though there’s nothing either of us could do about it. I think the biggest thing is to voice the feelings regardless of any solution and keep the conversations going.
This is fantastic. I’m going to print this out and put up in the Peds clinic for parents! And on a personal note I resonated strongly with the theme of invest in your partner’s passions…give them opportunities to thrive. I’ve gotten really lucky in that department and have also done my best to live that out for my partner. Takes intension. Thx for your writing Alison!
Thanks Jud! It definitely takes intention and sometime it’s hard to have the awareness to even know what your needs are! Still working on that over here. Stay tuned for Sam’s POV!
Huge thanks to you and Sam for these articles, Alison! It's not a hugely common thing in our friend group to have a two parent household where both (ideally) want to spend hours in the mountains training, so the transition to parenthood felt like pretty uncharted territory for us. Reflections like this (and Sam's) are so helpful!
Also something that's not here but might be helpful to others - I had a really hard time watching my husband progress at all the sports we used to enjoy together when I was pregnant. I was still doing (most) of them alongside him, but with a different level of risk tolerance. It stung, and was definitely something I had to work through. This stuff is hard!
Yes! I’m writing a more personal essay about that right now. It’s hard to have such massive changes in your body and ability to do what you normally can do while your partner isn’t affected in the same way at all. I found it hard not to feel like it was unfair, even though there’s nothing either of us could do about it. I think the biggest thing is to voice the feelings regardless of any solution and keep the conversations going.
This is fantastic. I’m going to print this out and put up in the Peds clinic for parents! And on a personal note I resonated strongly with the theme of invest in your partner’s passions…give them opportunities to thrive. I’ve gotten really lucky in that department and have also done my best to live that out for my partner. Takes intension. Thx for your writing Alison!
Thanks Jud! It definitely takes intention and sometime it’s hard to have the awareness to even know what your needs are! Still working on that over here. Stay tuned for Sam’s POV!